Life was much simple when it started in its first form and then later through the process of evolution it became complex and now after generations the complexity has gone up to such an extent that it threatens the existence of life itself on this mightier planet.
We all live in the world of cut throat competition and we are running a race against time, which is on the move always and most of us are trying to match the every running time by cutting short the idle time. We push ourselves to the limits and may be a bit beyond and every time we look for pushing it further consistently. We forget that we living a life that is slipping from our hands as every second passes by, on every moment of life we have a choice, to be either at peace or in resistance to the situation or surroundings. When we are at peace you attract positive energy and when you resist you create negative vibes that reflect back on your being.
You are stressed not because of your boss, colleagues, parents, ex-girl friend, wife or the traffic you are in, but it’s your own perception that creates stress and negative energy. Situations or rather circumstances are neutral. You are the one who modulate the situation and generate the sequence of events that follow and your response to the situation makes it positive or negative for you.
Lets learn it with example situation, It’s known as the principle of 90/10 by Stephen Covey. You are having breakfast and suddenly your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react to this situation. You jump from the chair and cursing and scolding your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, then you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup carelessly too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows and you storm upstairs to change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of the way you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “It’s ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply this principle of 90/10 and live a better life. Though its easy but hard to implement, If case if someone says something negative about you, don’t be a sponge and absorb all what is being said against you and react under stress. Let all the attack roll off like water on a glass pane. You don’t have to let the negative comment affect you in any way, react properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out and loose the essence of life.
A day of your life gets easily ruined when you start holding resentment against someone, one should know that everything is oneness and though it appears in different forms, everything is the manifestation of the one true essence. When you see others as yourself you will not harbor negative feelings and in turn your attitude will attract positive energy from the people around you. Negative thoughts are the seeds to negative actions. Try looking for good in everything and everyone. You would find more good things around.
Do not dig the past, as past is past, it has no reality than as a memory trace. Its up to oneself to think if He or She can you live in such simplicity, After all if you don’t continuously think up a bad memory you will not feel any resentment within. So just learn to forgive, forget and move on. There is a lot positive energy in the simple act of forgiveness. Life is a flux and its bound to change. The more you resist the more you will suffer. Whenever you try to control a life situation, you will feel stressed out and this will generate a lot of negative energy.
Every situation has a positive meaning to it, good and bad are just perceptions created in the conditioned mind. In spiritual terms every life situation is pure grace and is the manifestation of the one truth whether you call it god or spirit or energy. When you see every situation with this simplicity and innocence, this power will reveal its grace to you and Life will be much easy and simpler than perceived.
Never worry about the past or unknown, as it has not served any purpose to this date for anyone. Whatever has to happen will happen, there is nothing you will achieve by worrying about it. In fact what you worry about will not even happen most of the times and you end-up unnecessarily creating a lot of negative energy inside with you, which is harmful to your health and whole being itself. Just plan practically and leave the rest to life.
Set aside some time for yourself in your busy routine with no interruptions, to sit, reflect and recharge your batteries, No chore, No kids, No TV, No computer, No gym. Just time alone for you to focus your thoughts, check your priorities, to make sure nothing is weighing heavy on your mind. Set some time alone each day, even five minutes will do. Relax and enjoy some time alone with your own thoughts.
If you don’t, you might just miss some of the most important things in your life…